Slight Turbulence

Bring it on, bring it on, bring it on. From here to the eyes and the ears of the 'verse, that's my motto. Or at least it would be, if I start having a motto.


1 Comment

Getting Things Done

Today I went to work, then delivered KidA to an oral surgery appointment, shopped for cold foods after her appointment, dropped her off at home with directions for KidC and KidI to nurse her while I went back to pick up pain medication at the pharmacy that was conveniently closed when we left the dental offices.

I then revised the Chore Chart, which rotates about every quarter so the kids aren’t always doing the same chores for too long, then I pulled some weeds and raked around the house. Finally, I rallied KidC and KidI (with a surprisingly quiet tone) to help me remove all the furniture off the enclosed patio deck so we could sweep it and dry out the outdoor rug and pillows that endured the weekend winds and rain.

I feel accomplished on these kinds of days. I also feel alone. The DH is at the firehouse so these days happen regularly because his shift is 24-hours at a time.

I will feel alone and then I feel badly for feeling that way because so many military families do not even have the luxury of knowing their spouse or partner will be coming home the next day. So many single parents do the same thing, day in and day out. I also feel guilty for feeling that way because so often as I was growing up did I pride myself on my independence and ability to “go it alone” or “do it myself.” (I really painted myself into a corner on that one.)

It takes a little bit of effort to draw myself out of dwelling on the predicament. Really, I know whining helps no one. I know that I am fortunate to have the kids generally willing to help when I need it. I teach my children that feelings are always valid. People feel angry, discouraged, cheated, proud, exuberant, and comical. What counts is the actions you take, not how you feel.

So although I feel left alone to do so much of tasks, I remember to be thankful I have loving children. I remember to appreciate living in a nice home with a patio deck.

I know that alone is my choosing but I acknowledge the feeling… Then I focus on what needs to be done. The linen closet always needs to be straightened. A friend always needs a quick text to say “hi”. The kids could always get a hug.


Leave a comment

My Deciding Jar

image

My Deciding Jar

My last blog post was about a Happiness Jar. Tonight I’m sharing my Deciding Jar. It was a gift from my girls (KidI and KidA). It contains about 100 slips of paper with QR Codes on each slip. The way it works is that I will scan the code to determine how much I will pay for their foot massages.

Two years ago, KidA thought it would be a neat idea to start a “loyalty card” for her services. She would punch my card every timeย I got and paid for a foot massage. Let me establish her skills at foot massages — she is incredible. Not only does she firmly massage all parts of the foot, she also will massage for a long time. At a certain point, I figured she should be rewarded for her skill and she set her price at $4 for a 30-minute massage. It is a great deal. Sometimes, it ends up being only 10 minutes per foot because she’ll get carried away in conversation or she’ll focus more on what is on television. She also insists on starting on a fifteen minute interval so that she ends “properly.” So I’ll have to sit and wait until it is 8:15 or let her stay past her bedtime to end at 9:15.

So I was happily getting my feet massages and paying her pretty regularly about once a week when she came up with the loyalty card. I was not very diligent about getting it punched. I had no idea what I would get if it was completely punched. Then last January KidA announced that all the punches were done, revealing my prize — half off massages for the rest of the year! Winner!

She admitted that she thought I’d finish the card back in October or maybe November. That would leave only a month or two of the half off price. None the less, all last year, I got my massages for only $2!

This year, she was a little more savvy and my discount ended at the stroke of midnight on the last day of 2014. No matter, I now have this ingenious “Deciding Jar” to give me the possibility of deal. Plus, KidI is in on the massages so really, I would have to say, a pretty great Christmas gift for mommy!

image


Leave a comment

The Happiness Jar

Improvised tickle tool

A few years ago, Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love author) encouraged fans to start their own Happiness Jars as she had done. She would write the best moments of her day on random pieces of paper and store them in a jar. Since I want to grow my writing skills, I’m looking for focus, inspiration, routine, basically anything to help me get going.

It is about 8:40 PM on the first day of 2015. I’m contemplating reminding the girls that their bedtime is 9 o’clock. I’m also taking the time to determine my best moment of the day.

Was it returning home from our four-day staycation? Vacationing is fun. It always reminds you of things you truly appreciate back at home. Things like strong water pressure in the shower. Or a full kitchen with spices, condiments, and utensils. Familiar sounds and all my clothes, shoes, and toiletries (because the DH always encourages us to “pack light.”

Maybe it was heading to the Tolentino Pavilion (aka Auntie Cindy’s house) for a late lunch with her family. Good food, great conversation, high spirits because it is a new year. Added plus that the second cousins all get along and actually put down their mobile devices and interacted with each other.

I could think of a few more moments in contention for “the best” however, I think it would have to be as I sat on the couch reading through Flipboard articles and the DH declared “One minute!” At that, KidI jumped up and started an attempt to make her daddy laugh. KidA soon joined in to find his tickle spot. At the last possible second, the DH laughed loudly and the girls called themselves champions as they continued to laugh as KidC and I watched their craziness. That moment, right there. My family. Enjoying themselves. Together. Best moment of January 1, 2015.

Happy New Year everyone!


Leave a comment

The Day After Christmas

It’s the day after Christmas. Everyone is calm. The initial thrill of new things has worn off. Probably due to a lot of eating and a lot of socializing and a lot of staying up later than usual. In exchanging season greetings via text with friends, who I wish I could see more of, someone commented that I hadn’t been posting to my blog in a while. That prompted me to challenging myself to pick up my random musings again.

The DH had to work today and KidC had already declared he wanted to do “absolutely nothing” today (he’s gotten hooked on Fringe via Netflix). The girls played to my lack of preparation and called my parents, inviting them to the movies and lunch. I tagged along for the free food and entertainment. That, and I really did not want to straighten tissue paper and flatten boxes for future gift wrapping needs.

Reflecting on the season I must admit it took me a bit to get into the “holiday spirt.” I looked at decorating as a chore. I considered gift shopping a task list to get through. I wanted to get through all the motions as quickly as possible. Fortunately for me, everyone else around me, my co-workers, my friends, my family, were cheerful and bright and full of joy.

Tonight, in the quiet of KidC getting through another season of Fringe, KidA working on her Trevi Fountain Lego structure, KidI creating tricks on the Indo Board while watching The Princess Bride, and the DH at the fire house, I am happy and content.

 

 


Leave a comment

Throw Back to the First Day of School

KidI started school last Friday. KidC and KidA got a reprieve because as “upperclassmen,” didn’t need to attend first day orientations. It was their first day today so their usual summer slumber was replaced by the chaotic coordination ofย three bodies in and out of the bathroom. They headed out to catch theirย 6:55 AM school bus, while I prodded KidI to move a little faster with her morning routine. Before I knew it, KidI was off, the DH was off, and I was heading off myself.

At my morning break I happened to glance at my Twitter notifications. My post earlier of KidI at the bus stop joined several other #1stdayofschool pictures in my stream and I realized I missed taking a picture of the older children as they headed off. At lunch, I realized if I left work right on time, I could probably make it home before their bus and take. their. Picture!! (Thank goodness their bus schedule is inefficient and makes no sense.)

There I stood, grinning like a fool, taking pictures. Strangely, they wanted to get inside as quickly as possible.

IMG_6451IMG_6452IMG_6453

Of course, I made them stop again and take a picture by our garden banner. (This is where we usually take our first day of summer school picture but since we traveled this summer, there was no picture.)

IMG_6455

Pleased with myself, I immediately opened my computer to ensure I saved the picture for posterity (err, embarrassing wedding slide shows) and panic set in as my iPhoto application wouldn’t startup. I tried rebuilding the thumbnails. Then I attempted to repair the permissions. Finally, after verifying the disk I began to rebuild the photo database. Whew! That worked. And then there were 30 “new” pictures. Pictures from 2005. Pictures including the June 15, 2005 summer school first day picture of KidC and KidI! What!!?? It’s as if those little creatures who workย in my laptop knew exactly what needed to happen. Awwww… so adorable!


DSC00236